Love Languages

I can't stress enough how important it is to understand how your spouse interprets love. Not everyone wants to be shown love the same. It's human nature to love someone else the way you want to be loved but that may not be the way that they feel love best. There are five love languages.

Words of Affirmation

Quality Time
Receiving Gifts
Acts of Service
Physical Touch

• Words of Affirmation

  Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

• Quality Time

  In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

• Receiving Gifts

  Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

• Acts of Service

  Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

• Physical Touch

  This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. 
  
  
  (http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/)
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  Once you learn your spouses love language you know how you could best show them love and they know how to best show you love. This can work wonders for the relationship, especially if you have different love languages, which most people do. 
  
  
  Here is the link to the quiz. It's fun to take together but don't help each other answer! Getting the most honest result will be the best for your relationship. 
  
  

  
  
  Love Language Quiz